Not everything wrong in our life is our fault. We all come from different privileges, backgrounds that we have no control over, and some things that we cannot choose.
During our time on earth, we get hurt multiple times, face misfortunes, and have also been taken advantage of. Sometimes, we get into the trap of blaming other people for our miseries or the challenges that we are facing. It is okay to identify the root cause of your problem and also the people who cause them. But blaming circumstance or people for where you are in life gives them too much power over your destiny.
It is convenient to shift the responsibility for our failures to the horrible boss in the office, or a toxic family environment. While these situations do have a prominent effect on our lives, we still have some power to change the situation that we are in. It is easy to blame and shrug off the immediate responsibility that we have on ourselves but if we keep repeating the same story for a length of time, then we put ourselves in the danger of staying stuck in these toxic environments forever.
We convince ourselves that we have no control over what happens in our life as it is pre-written by our circumstances. We tell ourselves a story because it is easier for our minds to stay stuck in the known and comfortable. On the other hand, if we take responsibility for our problem, we will also have to take action, and blaming others is much better than blaming ourselves.
We are scared to step into this unknown territory of taking action. By blaming others, we are only hurting ourselves and the potential happiness that we can have. Blaming paralyzes us to take even one step further from our situation.
If we try looking at it from distance and acknowledge the mess around us, and take just one step to fix our little corner, we might end up solving our entire problem.
The goal is to not give our power away to situations and people. We are capable of changing the things around and inside of us, we might have to shout out for help, but that would also be a step that would take us in a new direction. If you feel stuck in one such circumstance in your life. Following actions may help you in becoming free.
Set an Intention to stop playing the Blame game
It is easy to point fingers at others when things go wrong. We see it in our work and personal life when something goes wrong, and people start looking for a scapegoat. Most of the time, people are looking to protect themselves by shifting the blame.
Take your power back
This means taking action on the things you can control. If you are going through a mentally tough situation, consider asking people for help or just own the bit of the problem that you can solve.
Pay attention when jumping on the blame wagon
Be aware the next time you start to shift the responsibility of your life to someone else. It is not that people are not horrible or toxic, but protect the corner of your sanity by bringing your awareness to yourself.
Find Empathy
Sometimes, it is hard to find forgiveness or recover the time we lost. Try looking at things from the other person’s perspective it will ease the pain that you experience. Find empathy for yourself if you acted out and went wrong at some point in time. Our relationship with ourselves dictates all the others, do not expect perfection in every situation from yourself.
Hope this piece helps you in seeing your life in a better light and take action to make it more amazing than it is today.
