4 Reasons why Loneliness is Important

Loneliness is not the absence of the people around you; you can feel lonely in a crowd as well. It is a dominating emotion that you may sense in your life, at some point.

Life is not a party all the time. You are not always having fun and surrounded by people. 

Even when you are hosting a party and waiting for people to come in, you have to set the venue up all by yourself. Or prepare everything before the party begins.

While the people at the party can bring us joy and happiness, the only person who stays before and after the party is you (or your best friend).

You cannot prepare for a party with a lot of people in the room. Nor, can you clean up after the party is over if they have not left.

This is why being lonely is important it gives the time and space that you need to prepare for the next thing in your life.

People often consider loneliness as a block that they need to get rescued from. They go looking for partners, friends, and kids to escape their loneliness.

People choose a miserable company over solitude because solitude can get scary. Though it is scary at first, it can get rewarding towards the end.

Lessons I learned from Loneliness

We get to see things from a different perspective

When we are lonely, at first our mind starts with the mindless chatter and slowly moves to our deeper fears, desires and thought patterns. You can only know your thought pattern when your consciousness is independent of other’s thoughts and running freely. We start thinking more about ourselves instead of what people want from us.

Loneliness can help us choose the right company

It is not that you should stay in isolation and cut yourself from everyone, but don’t be afraid of the time when you have to deal with life all by yourself.
Don’t cling on to people who are no good for you in search of company. Take a deep breath, take your ‘alone’ time and prepare for the great company coming your way.

Loneliness can bring you closer to your real self

It eliminates the noise around so that you can make yourself the centre of your life and take work on things or hobbies that will make you happier. Because when everyone and everything is gone all that we are left with is ourselves and that is always enough.

Spending enough time being alone can make you cherish your own self. Take your self out on dates, spend more time in self care and be your own person. It is a great time to work on yourself and your craft. You get more comfortable in your own skin and that leads to wonderful changes in your state of life. 

Loneliness can teach you Gratitude

The best things in life are often taken for granted. Solitude can make you develop a genuine appreciation for the people who are always there for you. It makes you appreciate life more and makes you thankful for all the resources and gifts that life has presented you. 

We all feel lonely at some point in our life, the best we can do is not try to run away from this feeling, instead embrace it. Learn the lessons that universe has been asking you to learn, once you learn to be happy when you are alone, life will gift you the people you truly appreciate your company, and chances that will lead you to a life full of Joy and contentment. 

If you keep running away for it, you will find yourself in the same situations again and again. If you cannot be happy when you are alone, it will be challenging to find happiness in your relationship and friendships.

I hope you enjoyed reading this piece, let me know your experience with loneliness and the lessons it taught you. 

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