How do you deal with the process of getting from where you are to where you want to be?
In a lot of cases, we do not participate in the process gracefully, which leads to an unhealthy transformation or an incomplete process.
We usually start our dissing our current self in order to get to the desired place.
Going from one state of existence to another involves a process.
This process needs to be completed from a place of love, or else it could give us unwanted results, or we may even end up leaving the process in the middle if it causes us grief.
Therefore, when you decide to develop yourself in a better person, you should not start hating your current self.
In the process of trying to lose weight, most of us start hating our bodies and follow the process with hatred towards ourselves, and punish our body for it. This creates an imbalance, and we may end up hurting our bodies in the process.
To learn any new skill you need a process. Remember when you decided to learn dancing, cooking, or singing, you followed a process. Did you judge yourself, or hate yourself when you did not know how to cook? Or dance? You just said that you will learn more and enhance your skill.
Did you start cussing yourself for being in ‘Grade 1’ on your way to graduation? No, right? So why do you put so much pressure on your imperfect self in the process of reaching to desired self?
Similarly, when we try to make more money, we start hating our current earning or existence. It creates an emotional gap in our connection to ourselves.
This emotional gap does not result in healthy transformation, and you are likely to get back to your old ways, or you may achieve the desired results, but you will not be in a happy place emotionally.
How would you react if someone asked you to do the right thing, forcefully? Their intentions may be nice, but how would you feel if a teacher punished you physically to achieve good grades?
We grow best in the in the places we feel loved.
When we are brought up in a loving environment where we feel trusted, we bloom the best. Having a partner who loves and trusts us, can bring out the best in us. We can be that partner for ourselves, we can love ourselves on this journey to become the best version of ourselves.
So when you want your body and mind to work with you in harmony, you have to give them love along the way. Thank yourself for choosing to take on this journey and for consistently evolving into a better person.
Loving yourself can make your transformation process a wonderful experience, rather than a torturous one.
So Love your imperfect self.
